BY: MONICA RODRIGUEZ
FUERZA LATINA ORGANIZATION
“People generally use this argument when they see their objectives contradicted and they are right to a certain extent, we all have the right to be happy, but no one has the right to be happy alone or at the expense of others, if to be happy I will make another unhappy I am going to harm him then my happiness is not fair and not being fair is not happiness nor should it last.”…….(The right to be young, Father Zezinho)
I chose this topic in view of the events that have taken place as a result of the pandemic, the mandatory confinement, the social distancing and the current lockdowns that have affected us mentally and emotionally and it is costing us more to feel good, sometimes we believe in the most Deep within our being that everything for which we have fought so much has not been of any use and we want to give up, why do we perceive this feeling so painful and at the same time so useless within us? How can we feel happy when you think you can’t? There are people who have low self-esteem and need someone to feel happy, but if you depend on that someone and at some point they miss you, you will feel that your world is unbalanced and that your life has no meaning, psychologists call it codependency and we they advise that loneliness is not bad that we must learn to be happy with our own company.
Borges already mentioned it in his writing: “I have committed the worst sin that a man can commit: I have not been happy” or as Abderramán III Caliph of Córdova said “There were 14 days of happiness in my whole life despite I had everything”, it is that for many happiness is wrong since they think that it is to accumulate goods, possessions or successes, and it is that happiness is not sought, it is achieved, because it is not a right but it is our duty, happiness is not a feeling but an internal state of attitude and the events in our lives are the interpretations we give it, do not give life to that voice that wants to seize your best memories, stop thinking that you are not happy, because the opposite of sadness is not happiness but resilience.
Are you happy?… Do I have the right to be happy?… How can I become happy? The path begins with oneself and continues with others, that is, there is that loving yourself first to be able to love others, to be happy you need more than anything to accept life as it comes to us, and that is what the Japanese concept IKIGAI gives us, which means “having a reason to live” , with its 3 simple ways to apply it: 1) what you love, 2) what you’re good at, 3) what the world needs and what you can be paid for. We must also practice tolerance daily, the most important thing, always transmitting a smile, smile, never stop smiling, try to control negative thoughts, practice gratitude, remember everything you do have in your life, try to speak less and listen more, learn to say NO on some occasions so as not to be forced to do something you don’t want, stop waiting for the moment and for the right people, people who live waiting let their lives and their happiness pass, you must forgive yourself and give yourself a new opportunity to be happy and best of all give yourself time to reflect or meditate without interruption from anyone, so you can discover many things about yourself that you had no idea.
I start to reflect on this topic of being happy and a movie that has marked my life and that of many I suppose with respect to this topic comes to mind, its title is “Life is beautiful” where the protagonist Guido ( Roberto Benigni) for love directs his son in a game where he must earn points whose objective is to protect his joy, his illusion, his innocence and masks the harsh reality that is the holocaust of war.
And it is that being happy is in the way you look at and accept life and in how you face adversity. Don’t look for how to be happy, dare to be happier because you already are!!!